My parents never were overly affectionate with each other. No lovey-dovey stuff there. So I started married life ignoring affection all together. It wasn't that I didn't like a quick hug or kiss, but I didn't make it a priority. My wonderful husband comes from a very affectionate family. He often walks on the very thin line between decent and inappropriate. LOL I am learning and he has backed off a little bit......and the kids frequently roll their eyes and tell us to "get a room".....so I suppose we are doing ok, now.
There were many years in there though that my poor husband felt like I was shunning him when I dodged his embrace or walked away from a kiss. I wasn't necessarily doing it to hurt him, but couldn't he see I was busy? I had things to do! I have since learned that a 5 minute hug isn't going to make or break my day. Snuggle on the couch while watching TV (difficult sometimes with 2 little ones crawling on us as well)....hold hands in the car......I try to find ways every day to show Norman that I love him a lot.
In this department it is the little things that make the big difference :) Pray about your attitude toward affection. Show some, even if your husband doesn't. Our actions speak much louder than our words :)
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